They say you meet certain people in life and instantly know they’re going to be part of your story forever. That’s exactly what happened when I met Tlotlo Mogware in August 2024 at the SADC Summit in Zimbabwe. We were both there as part of the Women of the South Speak Out Fellowship program, but honestly, from the moment I saw her, it felt like we’d known each other in another lifetime. It was love at first sight—the kind of connection that makes you think, "This is my person."
Tlotlo stood out in the room with her tiny frame, unique smile, and an energy that screamed authenticity. As we went around introducing ourselves, I couldn’t help but think, "Ooh wow, she looks like Twasa!" For the uninitiated, Twasa is a South African radio and television presenter I absolutely adore. And just like that, my mind was made up. Tlotlo was going to be my friend, and as fate would have it, we’ve been inseparable ever since.
Now, let me set the record straight: I’m a friendly person. I make friends faster than you can say "hello." But keeping friends? That’s reserved for the special ones. Tlotlo is one of those rare gems. Over time, I realized why our connection felt so profound. We share a spiritual bond—a gift that not everyone will understand but one that makes our friendship unshakeable.
Our bond is so solid it could probably make some folks wonder if we’re secretly plotting world domination (we’re not... yet). But honestly, some people’s curiosity about our friendship is hilarious. It’s like they’re watching, analyzing, and maybe even side-eyeing us for no reason. Someone made an unnecessary comment about how much time we spend together and I found it quiet annoying because I don't know bangenaphi?. People must relax and focus on their own friendships. Anyway, we don't entertain nonsense. We keep it moving.
But here’s the kicker: Tlotlo is not just a good friend; she’s a phenomenal human being. She’s a human rights defender, a proud queer woman, a devoted mom, a loving daughter, and an even prouder Botswana national. And let me tell you, if the people of Botswana don’t treat her with the dignity she deserves, they’re going to have me to deal with. Don’t test me.
One of the things that warms my heart most is seeing Tlotlo’s growth over the past few months. When we first met, she struggled with confidence, thanks to people who went out of their way to make her feel "not enough." (Who even has the time for that level of petty? Honestly.) But watching her evolve into a woman who knows her worth has been nothing short of inspiring. I’m so proud of her.
Tlotlo inspires me in ways she probably doesn’t even realize. She’s proof that resilience and self-love can overcome any negativity. She cheers me on, entertains my nonsense, and stands by me when life gets hard. We’ve cried together, laughed until our stomachs hurt, and are walking this life journey hand in hand.
There’s a song that perfectly captures how I feel about our friendship: “Umbrella” by Rihanna. I’ve officially dedicated it to Tlotlo because the lyrics speak to everything we’ve built together. When Rihanna sings, “When the sun shines, we’ll shine together. Told you I’ll be here forever,” it feels like she’s describing us. No matter what life throws our way, we’ve got each other’s backs. And of course, “You can stand under my umbrella,” is the ultimate promise of protection and loyalty. Tlotlo, I’ve got you, rain or shine.
Tlotlo and I are two crazy people navigating this wild thing called life. We’ve taken the messiness of it all—bad days, challenges, heartbreaks—and turned it into something beautiful. And though I miss her dearly right now, I know it won’t be long before I see her again, give her the biggest hug, and pick up where we left off.
So, here’s to Tlotlo Mogware, the friend I didn’t know I needed but now can’t imagine life without. To her courage, her laughter, her love, and her ability to light up any room she walks into. And to anyone reading this: if you have a friend like Tlotlo, hold them close. True friendships are rare, and when you find them, they’re worth celebrating every single day.
Tlotlo, my queen, this one’s for you. Thank you for being you, and here’s to a lifetime of making memories together. 🌟
