Jealousy. It’s a sneaky, sinister emotion that can lurk even in the brightest corners of our lives. And let’s be real—many of us have felt its cold fingers at some point. But why do some people entertain this feeling, letting it grow into a monster that poisons relationships and suffocates joy? As someone with a spiritual gift that often pulls back the veil on people’s true intentions, I’ve seen jealousy in its rawest form—and let me tell you, it’s both hilarious and tragic.
Jealousy stems from comparison. It’s that nagging whisper that says, “Why don’t I have what they have?” "Why are they so good at this"? and then you start thinking, what can I do to sabotage them?" But here’s the gag sweety: we’re not supposed to have the same things! We can’t all be rich, gorgeous, funny, educated, and magnetic all at once. Life doesn’t work that way, and frankly, it would be boring if it did. We’re all running our own races, set on paths designed specifically for us by God. Yet, instead of focusing on their destinies, some folks veer off into the dark alleys of envy, peeking over their shoulders at what others are doing.
The cure? Mind your business. I’m serious. Focus on your blessings, your growth, and your goals. Comparison is the thief of joy, and jealousy is the burglar that comes with it, ready to ransack your peace.
Here’s where it gets spicy. Jealousy doesn’t always announce itself with a neon sign. It’s subtle—a side-eye here, a backhanded compliment there. As someone blessed (and sometimes cursed) with a spiritual gift, I’ve had dreams where the jealous faces of so-called “sisters” are revealed to me. These dreams don’t lie. I see them for who they are, even as I smile and play along in real life.
Let’s talk about the signs and I'll give you just four for now. Just from my personal experience of these crazy people.
Lack of Celebration: You’re thriving, achieving milestones, and they’re quieter than a mouse in church. Meanwhile, you’re popping champagne for their every small win. Backhanded Compliments: “You look good, for once.” Excuse me? Just say I look good and keep it moving. Competitive Behavior: Suddenly, everything becomes a contest. You’re out here living your life, and they’re keeping score. Gossip: You’re hearing things through the grapevine—things they’ve said—and it’s not the good kind of juicy gossip.
If you’re nodding along, thinking of someone in your life, it’s time to reevaluate that relationship.
Myself as Zintle, I am proud to say I’ve always celebrated others. It’s in my nature. But I’ve noticed that when I’m doing well, the energy shifts. Some "sisters" can’t muster genuine congratulations. Thanks to my spiritual gift, I’ve met my ancestors in dreams—be it grandparents, uncles or cousins who guide me and reveal truths. Sometimes, they show me these jealous souls, and I’m left shaking my head. But here’s the thing: I don’t confront them. I let them think I’m as clueless as they hope, while I silently set boundaries.
Jealousy isn’t inevitable. It thrives on insecurity and a lack of self-awareness. The antidote? Gratitude. When you’re genuinely grateful for your blessings, there’s no room for envy. Accept that you’re different. Your path is unique, and your timing is divine. Celebrate others, not out of obligation but because their wins don’t diminish yours. Life isn’t a zero-sum game.
I want to give you this hilarious but serious advice, please kindly take it my friend. Let's start here. Pay attention bangani(friends).
Mind Your Plate: If you’re always looking at what’s on someone else’s plate, your food will get cold. Celebrate Like It’s Yours: Throw the confetti! Their win today might mean yours is around the corner. Set Boundaries: If your spirit is telling you someone’s energy is off, trust it. Distance isn’t petty; it’s protection.
To those who’ve felt the sting of jealousy from others, remember this: it’s not about you. It’s about their insecurities. Keep shining. To those who’ve entertained jealousy, it’s never too late to change. Start by celebrating yourself and others. Life is too short to carry the weight of envy.
Let’s choose love, gratitude, and genuine connections. Let’s clap for each other, knowing there’s enough light for everyone to shine.
Waaawzaa!!!! Heal!
