Polygamy, Destiny, and Love: A Dream That Shook My Spirit

Polygamy. Just the word alone can spark heated debates, evoke deep emotions, and, if you’re like me, leave you with questions you never thought you’d ask yourself. I’ve always been fascinated by the concept—thanks to shows like Uthando Nesithembu on Showmax, where Musa Mseleku, a well-known polygamist, balances life with four wives. It’s a world of love, unity, and negotiation that I’ve admired from afar, convinced that I’d never step into it.

But then today, I woke up with a dream. A vivid, almost surreal dream where I found myself sitting in a meeting with a man I knew but couldn’t quite place and another woman. This man introduced me as his second wife, telling his first wife he loved me and didn’t want to part ways. He asked her to accept me into their marriage. What startled me even more was that, after an initial hesitation, I agreed to this. It felt so real. I woke up with one thought: Could this be my destiny?

Dreams are strange, aren’t they? They take us into places we never imagined, opening doors to emotions and possibilities we didn’t think we could embrace. I’ve always viewed polygamy through a lens of curiosity and distance, marveling at the dynamics while remaining firmly convinced it wasn’t for me.

But now, I wonder: What if it is my destiny? What if love, unity, and the unexpected twists of life lead me down this path?

The strangest part? My dream reminded me of a story my mother once shared. Many years ago, she had a dream where my great-grandfather Khuselo brought her to my father’s home. At the time, my father was married to someone else. Naturally, my mother questioned this—why would he bring her to a married man’s home? My great-grandfather responded simply: “That doesn’t matter because this is your home. I have brought you to your husband.”

Years after the dream, life unfolded in ways no one could have predicted. My parents reunited, fell deeply in love, and built a beautiful life together. Their story has always felt like a testament to the mysterious ways destiny works, but now, it feels even closer to home. Could my dream be an echo of hers?

Here’s another twist: I’ve always joked that if I ever found myself in a polygamous marriage, I’d much rather be the second wife than the first. Why? Because as the second wife, I’d skip the emotional rollercoaster of wondering, Why did my husband feel the need to pursue someone else? Am I not enough? Watching shows like Mnakwethu, where Mseleku helps men break the news of their polygamous intentions to their first wives, has given me a glimpse into how devastating that news can be. I’ve always empathized with the first wives, whose self-worth often takes a hit in these moments. And yet, here I am, wondering what this dream could mean for me.

Polygamy is not a new concept. It’s as ancient as humanity itself, practiced in cultures across the world, from African traditions to the Muslim community. Even in the Bible, polygamy was part of many narratives. Take Jacob, who married Leah and Rachel, or King David and Solomon, who had multiple wives. These stories reflect complex dynamics of love, family, and faith.

In African traditions, polygamy often served to build stronger communities, ensuring families had support systems and economic stability. In the Muslim faith, polygamy is allowed under specific conditions—like treating all wives equally—and is often framed around responsibility and care.

As someone with a spiritual gift, I’ve learned not to dismiss the power of dreams. Over the years, I’ve dreamt of people, places, and events, and 90% of the time, those dreams have come to pass. My spiritual connection allows me to see beyond the physical world, to tap into realms where messages and guidance come from ancestors and a higher power. This dream about polygamy feels significant, like a nudge from destiny.

Polygamy, like life, is full of unexpected outcomes. It’s not about one-size-fits-all solutions or universally right choices. It’s about love—how it grows, stretches, and sometimes includes more than we thought it could. It’s about unity, not just between spouses but within families and communities.

For me, this dream isn’t just about polygamy. It’s about surrendering to the unknown, trusting the process, and being open to the surprises life holds. Whether or not polygamy is in my future, I know that love will always guide me.

And if you’re wondering whether you’d ever consider something you thought you’d never do, take it from me: life has a way of nudging you in directions you never expected.

All we can do is follow with open hearts and trust in the journey ahead. Izobonakala phambili.

Happy reading bangani.